Diner's Q+A


Do you just do dinner events?

Organizers can also do stand-up events. It's like a club dinner but without the meal [although some people might hang on to have an optional supper together if it's at a venue]. They make social dining more accessible for guests who want to know more about the club, and for new organizers too. It's a lot easier to accept a variable number of people than organising a table. Some clubs, especially in the early days use a drinks get-together as a way of bringing in new members and some members arrange drinks parties because they are easier than cooking a meal, but they still get to meet you. Either way, the process is the same - guests are invited.

Do I have to take a turn as an organizer?

No. Most of us are too busy and we should leave it to those who have the mojo to do it.

If the idea appeals to you at all, then listen to your sub-conscience. A potentially fun and rewarding experience awaits. See how you feel after attending a meeting or two as a guest.

Do I have to create a profile?

It's up to you whether you create one or not, and what you include on it but bear in mind that members and organizers would like to know a little about you before they meet you. Organizers in particular need to know something about you to select you. You can upload an image and enter a short paragraph about yourself, or a list your hobbies and interests works just as well. If you are the organizing type, then you'll appreciate that is important to let your potential guests know a little about you too.

Who can see my profile and when?

When you place yourself on a Waiting List, your organizer can see it, and when you join a Guest List fellow guests can see it. If you organize an event, then effectively the public will be able to see your profile by clicking through from your event page to your club page, and then through to your profile.

Can I see a Guest List?

Only when you are on that Guest List. Events are exclusive to those who are selected to attend.

Can I go with a friend?

You can nominate a buddy to go with you. Your buddy has to be a member as well and you will be picked as a pair. You will both get email confirmations if you are placed on the Guest List. You can create alist of buddies in your settings.

Do you charge me for attending an event?

No. We don't charge the organizer either.

Why do I have to subscribe to take part?

If we allowed free involvement and anonymous people to attend events, we'd be compromising safety. Subscription helps group dining and socials to be one of the safest ways to find a mate because membership creates a trail to a bank account. We spend over half of your subscription on advertising to recruit members like you.

Can I contact the organizer?

Please do. Hit the ASK button. We don’t want people to be strangers and the host is vouchsafing for you, so previous contact is important.

Can the organizer contact me?

When you are on the Guest List, the organizer can email you. Until then they can't, unless you share contact details with them beforehand.

What if I don’t like the kind of events available to me?

You can organize the sort of event you would like to go to. See the Organizer's Q+A.

Can I apply for an event if the event is full?

Yes. More spaces might be available.

Will I be told if I am not selected for the guest list?

We can't tell when an organizer has made up their mind so we don't send an email if you are not selected. If you don't get included for an event, please do not take it personally. We won't know what the organizer is trying to achieve in their group [or whether the event actually occurs]. If you don’t want to be included any more, you can remove yourself from the waiting list.

Will I be told if I am on the guest list?

Yes. You and any buddy will receive a confirmation email.

When do I pay?

Your confirmation email will give payment instructions on when and how to pay. Please follow these instructions quickly.

Who pays for the buddy?

The booking member should pay for their buddy as a politeness to the organizer, and to make things easier.

I asked to go with a buddy, but one of us can’t make it. What do we do?

Contact your host, but it is possible to cancel your places and then re-book without a buddy.

Can I contact a fellow member I met at a dinner?

Yes. Look in the tab 'Message' on the menu.

Can I stop another guest from emailing me?

Yes. Request 'privacy'. Navigate to 'Message' on the menu and find the member and hit the switch.

If I am a no-show, does it go against me?

We enable organizers to record who showed up and who did not. We appreciate that sometimes things don’t go according to plan, so we try not to read too much into these things.

What about tipping?

We hope you do and that you ensure the staff receive it. Leaving cash on the table is usually appreciated, as opposed to adding it to a card payment. Please follow the conventions of your society and culture. Your organizer might suggest what should be done.

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